Enabling is very much a give and take cycle. The direction of negative and positive interaction flows in both directions just as they do in any relationship. We need to arm ourselves with knowledge so that we can better perceive the negative actions that keep enabling cycles alive.
Often the addict will deceive and manipulate those who enable them knowing that they can play on that caring aspect of loved ones and their naivety to addiction.
This is called conditioning. A process whereby the addict manipulates, deceives, lies and controls the enabler to ensure that their toxic lifestyle is maintained.
In the graphic we have listed 6 common ways that addicts will do this.
Can you identify any of these traits in a loved one of yours?